Friday, February 15, 2008

The "D" word sucks...

And no, it's not Donut. ;-)

I don't believe I've mentioned this to anyone outside of my immediate family and/or work, but I'm getting a divorce. Shocked?

Ed and I officially separated July 31, 2007. Yes, 6.5 months ago, and you all are barely hearing about it. It's not something that's easy for me slip into a conversation. "I went to the Getty Villa the other day, it was such a nice day, oh and by the way, I'm getting a divorce." Or "I got a new car in September and I'm getting a divorce." Yeah, no easy way to say it.

Most of the time I see people and the topic at hand is so light and cheery that I don't want to bring it down. Ok, that's a bit of a lie. It's just that I don't like talking about it much, because then I feel I have an obligation to go into why the divorce had to happen. How my relationship with my soon-to-be-ex became a platonic relationship. The financial hardships we faced made communication that much harder. And the stbe's stubbornness led down this path. And no, all the blame doesn't lay on him. **Or is it "all the blame doesn't lie on him"?

I don't want to get to much into it here, if you're curious, give me a call or send me an email.

For some reason, we see divorce as a signal of failure, despite the fact that each of us has a right, and an obligation, to rectify any other mistake we make in life.
-Joyce Brothers


Shelley E said...

wow Cristina- I am sorry you are going through this...I am sure it isn't an easy thing. I will keep you in my thoughts...

Temeculamom said...

Cristina, I'm sorry. I know marriage is so hard. I hope this is the best thing for you. I'm thinking of you. Don't feel like a failure. Most of the married population does it. I'm sorry that you're hurting. I hope this turns out to be a wonderful new beginning for you.